10 Silent Struggles Only Moms Who Have Lost a Child Understand

If you’ve lost a child, you already know how hard it is to put your pain into words. Some days it feels like the world expects you to keep moving, to smile, to act “okay”—but inside, you feel anything but okay. I see you. I hear you. And I want you to know you’re not alone in feeling the things that no one talks about.

Here are 10 struggles that moms like us carry every day, even if we don’t always say them out loud:

1. "Nobody understands what I’m going through."
People mean well, but hearing things like “time will heal you” or “just focus on the good things” makes it worse. This isn’t something time can erase.

2. "I don’t even know how to get through today."
Every morning feels like climbing a mountain you didn’t ask to climb. You’re exhausted, but you keep going because you have to.

3. "I don’t feel like myself anymore."
The person you were before feels so far away. You’re different now, and it’s hard to even know what your life is supposed to look like.

4. "I’m surrounded by people, but I feel so alone."
Even when people are trying to help, it can feel like they don’t really see your pain. Sometimes, it feels easier to just keep it to yourself.

5. "The world keeps moving, but I’m stuck."
Everyone else seems to go back to their normal lives. But for you, everything has changed, and there’s no “normal” to go back to.

6. "I can’t stop wondering if this is my fault."
You replay everything in your head, asking yourself, “What if I had done something different?” Even when you know it’s not your fault, the guilt doesn’t go away.

7. "Talking about my child feels so hard."
You want to talk about them, but sometimes people get uncomfortable or don’t know how to respond. That hurts, because your child is still part of your story.

8. "I feel disconnected from everything, even God."
It’s hard to pray or feel close to God when your heart feels shattered. You’re angry, confused, or maybe just too tired to figure it out.

9. "My body feels as broken as my heart."
Grief shows up everywhere—exhaustion, headaches, or even that heavy feeling in your chest. It’s not just in your head; it’s in your whole body.

10. "I want to honor my child, but I don’t know how."
You want their life to matter, but you also want to figure out how to keep living yours. That balance feels impossible some days.

If you feel these things, know this: you’re not broken, and you’re not alone. Grief is heavy, but you don’t have to carry it by yourself. Together, we can find a way to honor your child, rediscover pieces of yourself, and keep taking one small step forward, even on the hardest days.

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