Mama, You Are Not Powerless 

Sometimes it’s okay to tell people that everything is okay. But I want you to think about this—when somebody says, “How are you doing?” what would happen if you told them the truth? What if you just said, “I need a hug today,” or, “Today has been difficult.” And you can always add, “Today has been a difficult day, but we don’t have to talk about it.” Something changes when you validate your feelings. Something shifts in you and others around you when you admit you’re sad or that today has been hard. People don’t know what a mama is going through unless you let them in.

Child loss is inside you. You think you look normal, act like you used to, and that nobody sees it—but you’re wrong. They know. They see it in your walk, your eyes, your face. And if they truly knew you before, they already see it. Even strangers sense it. You’re living in a light that carries both pain and resilience.

Faith is going to require action. It’s going to require perseverance. It’s going to ask something of you that feels impossible to give. But every time you release that burden to God, every time you speak, “I can do this,” you’re building a new strength. Turn your “I don’t know” into “I’m going to find out.” Change your language. If someone says, “Get up,” and you’re not ready, that’s okay. But when the time comes, you need to start living for you.

You don’t have to carry the world today, Mama. This journey is like running a race—you need to condition yourself and prepare. You need to find the right fit for this new version of you. Redefine who you are, step by step, to win this race. Together, we can do it. With Christ, we can find new life. Our identity can be reshaped.

We will always be marked by the love we carry for our child, but we don’t have to carry pain that weighs us down. We don’t have to live in confusion or insecurity. You are a daughter of the King, and you can wear your crown with unshakable faith. He will lead you where you need to go, but you have to keep your eyes on Him.

And if you’re at the end of yourself, where you feel like you have nothing left to give, why not turn to Him? What do you have to lose? Go into your quiet place, your safe space, and ask Him, “Jesus, if you are real, if you are here for me, show me something new.” But let go of your expectations. Surrender your path. Let Him bring you a new identity.

Sometimes, He is working behind the scenes, orchestrating the perfect connection for you. Somewhere out there, someone else is praying for the help you can offer, or for the guidance they need—and maybe you’re the answer to their prayer. Be open to God’s timing.

Mama, you are not powerless. You are not worthless. There is more for you. You can reshape the darkness and change your circumstances. Speak God’s truth over your life. Place the focus on yourself for once—not on others. Dive into you. It will feel like the most selfish thing you’ve ever done, but it will be the most healing gift you’ve ever given to yourself and to those who love you.

Don’t be scared. Cling to Jesus, and come find me. Let’s talk.

Julie